Stop Stealing My Holiday Weekend for Your Wedding
Ahh, holiday weekends. They’re something we all look forward to each year in our working lives. For many, it’s a blessed free day off of work that doesn’t require us to sacrifice a vacation day. We continue looking forward to these holiday weekends, that is until the mail shows up. And your wedding invitation is there, mixed in with the catalogs and bills, asking me to take my long weekend and celebrate it with you.
This is me asking you to reconsider planning your wedding on a holiday weekend. Look, I get it. For some folks out there, families tend to get together on holiday weekends, so why not throw your wedding when everyone is together? Because it’s likely that the rest of us have to travel in some way, shape or form to your wedding, and that free Monday our head honchos gave us to relax and spend time with our families is now dedicated to me driving back from your wedding.
I also understand that as we get older, friends tend to move away from one another. Meaning that when someone gets married, you’ll likely have to travel at least some distance, whether that’s by plane, train or automobile, to get to their wedding.
Why You Shouldn’t Get Married on a Holiday Weekend
I mean, I could go on and on about why I think you shouldn’t you get married on a holiday weekend. And to be honest, they’re all selfish reasons. Here are a few reasons to pick a different weekend for your wedding:
1. Your Holiday Weekend Wedding Will Take up the Whole Weekend
Let’s look at the big picture. Holiday weekends are a big draw for many because you have Monday off, so Sunday becomes an excellent option for a wedding (and potentially cheaper). Me being the selfish person that I am, I don’t want to spend my free Monday hungover AF driving home eight hours so I can continue my misery at home.
In my mind, here’s the logistical breakdown of holidays weekend weddings by day you get married:
Friday night weddings. While I strongly dislike Friday weddings (that’s a different blog post for a different day), this is probably still the best option when it comes to holiday weekend weddings. For a Friday wedding, you walk out of work thinking you’re free from The Man’s shackles; then you remember you have a wedding and have to haul ass home to get ready. Or if you’re super unlucky, you ended up having to take off work to BE in the wedding. At least you still have Saturday to recover, and Sunday and Monday to enjoy.
Saturday night weddings. With a holiday weekend wedding on a Saturday, you lose your Friday, because if you’re anything like me, you have not at all prepared for this wedding, so you still need to pack. You also may be using your Friday evening to drive wherever this wedding may be. Then you spend your whole Saturday getting ready for the wedding, celebrating, and then possibly going on your merry way on Sunday. You still have your Monday.
Sunday night weddings. Ugh. Sunday weddings. So, depending on whether or not you have to travel, which you likely do, you either blow your Friday or Saturday on travel. Then like Saturday weddings, you spend most of your time getting ready on Sunday, celebrate the wedding, and then repeat the trip on Monday. I will say this. I did just go to a Sunday wedding in Milwaukee, and we spent the whole weekend there, and it was FUN. So I will eat my words sometimes (but not usually).
2. You’re Having a Cash Bar
I am not entirely against cash bars. As long as you have free keg beer and wine (this girl’s not mad at a box of Franzia), everyone’s happy. However, you’re asking people to travel and celebrate with you on their holiday weekend, so at least provide a little somethin’, somethin’. Let it be clear I am drawing on personal experience here. Last New Year’s Eve, the boytoy and I were invited to a wedding. Sure, fine, whatever, it’s a free party, right? Wrong. For starters, we didn’t know of many of our friends that were going to be there, and when we arrived, we were faced with the fact that it was a cash bar. On New. Years. Eve. Screw that. At least our friends who also happen to be on the same wedding circuit as us showed up (shout out to Spencer and Katie!).
I am not an idiot. I understand that financials don’t always allow people to provide such luxuries. But consider the holiday you’re asking people to celebrate with you. Throw some free boxed wine their way, and everyone’s happy.
3. The Cost of Vendors Can Increase
Okay, I am just looking out for you here. Did you know that wedding vendors will increase their prices during holiday weekends because they know it’s such a popular time? Forget them and throw your wedding a different weekend!
4. Two Words: Family Traditions
While my family doesn’t really have any holiday weekend traditions, that’s not to say other guests don’t. But having your wedding on a holiday weekend, there’s the possibility that you’re pulling someone away from something else that’s equally as important to them as you are. That can be a really tough decision for someone to make, and it may not feel fair to them. Solve this problem by having your wedding a week later or earlier. We’ll all thank you for it.
List of Weekends That Are Off Limits
To help a friend out, I have compiled a list of weekends that are best avoided when planning your wedding. They are:
Memorial Day Weekend
Fourth of July Weekend
Labor Day Weekend
New Year’s Eve
I’ll Always Still Love Weddings
Even though I bitch and moan about people taking my holiday weekend with their wedding, the truth is, I love weddings, and there’s a good chance you’re my friend. And if you invite me to your wedding on a holiday weekend, yes, I will come and tear up the dance floor.
That’s all this time, folks. Got questions, comments, a tale you’d really like to tell me? Contact me. I would love to hear from you!