What to Know About Eloping
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So, I don’t know about you, but more and more people in my life have been eloping. And snowballing off that, it seems like a damn good idea more and more.
By eloping, you eliminate the back and forth of a guest list, having to include roses in the centerpieces because they’re your mother-in-law’s favorite, and whatever else BS comes with planning a wedding. Instead, it’s just you, your boo and whoever is officiating your wedding. Seems like an intimate wedding dream to me.
However, how does a couple actually elope? There are plenty of planners and how-to’s the tell you how to plan the perfect ceremony, but there aren’t any manuals on how to plan an elopement (which, yes, does require a little bit of planning on your part).
Well once again, we are here to help you out so you can have the elopement of your dreams.
There are multiple ways to elope
First and foremost, you have to decide how exactly you’d like to elope. If you want to keep it local, your courthouse might be an option. If a mountain vista is more your speed, you’ll need to find yourself an officiant. Or if all you really want is to show up and get married, there are companies who plan all the details for you.
You still need a marriage license
The requirements for a marriage license will depend on where you live. What does that mean? Do. Your. Damn. Research. Certain states may just think you need to stew on your decision to get married, so there’s a waiting period from when you file your marriage license to when you can actually lock it down. Myth also has it that some states require a blood test to obtain a marriage license (apparently this was a thing in Mississippi?!).
Another very (very, very, very) important thing to check is if you need witnesses to sign your marriage license. Some states do not require these signatures, but wouldn’t it be the worst to roll up to the courthouse with just you and boo, and they’re like, surprise you needed two friends to make this legit? I think it would be anyways.
Oh yeah, and another thing about marriage licenses, they expire. So you’ll need to get ‘er done or get applying again. Oh yeah again, marriage licenses cost money, so you need to account for that, too.
Find yourself an officiant
Like choosing the way you’d like to elope, there’s also several options for who officiates your wedding. If you choose the courthouse route, the Justice of the Peace is going to be your guy or gal. If the vistas of Lake Tahoe are what’s up your alley, finding a local officiant or having a friend become ordained online may be your chosen path.
To photograph the elopement ceremony or not
While it may not be a traditional wedding set up, you’ll want to consider hiring a photographer or videographer to capture your big day. Eloping is equally as special as a wedding ceremony, and having a person their to capture the intimate moments between you and your honey bunch will give you memories to last a lifetime.
Don’t forget the fashion
If it matters to you, you’ll want to create a memorable look for your wedding day. However, what’s memorable to is not necessarily what you see on Instagram. Taking Kristen Bell for example - she rocked a black dress at her courthouse wedding to Dax Shepard. Your day-of wedding fashion can be whatever you want, whether that’s a gown, a power suit or a full leather ensemble, it’s your day to represent you and your boo’s love.
Don’t forget post elopement
There are a few things you may want to consider after eloping. There may be some people in your life who feel a tidge hurt by the fact they weren’t there to watch you say I do (or mostly get drunk at an open bar). Print up some good ol’ fashioned elopement announcements, and send them in the mail with a stamp and all.
If you like a good party (who doesn’t?), you can always throw a little shindig for your close family and friends after you elope. This allows the people in your life who care about you to celebrate your marriage, but in a way that’s much more relaxed (and probably a lot cheaper than a traditional wedding reception).
P.S. parents have a way of making their children feel guilty, so I recommend that you tell your parents that you’re going to elope 1) before you do or 2) if you’re on the train of waiting until after, at least tell them before you send out elopement announcements to friends and family. I have a feeling that they’ll appreciate it.
No matter what you choose, your day is about you.
And that’s important to remember. Whether you get married in front of four hundred guests or just one, your wedding day is about your love for your partner. Not what your friends, family or long-lost cousins want.
Until next time, my party people.